So, you have a great opportunity to plan a wedding. You may be a first time wedding planner, cousin of the bride, best friend of the bride or even the bride. Whoever you are, I know you’re thinking, this is a  lot of work but I have to get it done.

Even though planning a wedding can be very stressful because of all the components involved in executing the day. There are many ways to avoid or minimize the level of stress you undergo during the planning season.

I’ll use this forum to give you a few tips on how to avoid burn out and anxiety and have you planning a stress-free wedding day.


1. Start with Prayer

I prefer to start all my activities with prayer. Why? It lets me know that I have committed my actions to God and I expect His will and guidance throughout the process. You don’t have to pray a long prayer or speak in tongues but do ask God’s help for the journey. Remember prayer is talking to God as you would to a friend. You would just need to be reverent (sincerity of the heart) and say that which is on your mind. Here is an example, if you are not the kind of person who prays. ” Father, I come to you in the name of Jesus seeking your forgiveness for any sin that I may have knowingly and unknowingly committed. I thank You, God, for Your grace and mercies and the opportunity to be able to come to You in prayer. Father, I ask that as I am about to start this wedding planning process for (name of persons) set to be held on (date), I present all the planning before You. Let Your will be done Lord and give me knowledge and direction as I move ahead. I commit the day and the couple before you and I ask Your coverage over their lives and the day’s proceedings. Have Your way in and through us. In Jesus’ name. Amen.”

2. Get a Notebook/Planner

The next thing to do it to get a new notebook and/or wedding planning book. I would suggest using a planner as they have information that will guide you through planning the wedding. However, you should get one that has a notes section or where you could glue a few blank sheets in it, for your notes. This is because you’d want all your information in one place for easy access and to stay organized. Notebooks are a cheaper way as you can get them for US $1 or less. If you are using a notebook, you can get planning information online, paste or write them in the book. Whichever you get or should you chose to get both, write all important dates and appointments as well as notes to yourself in it.

3. Know the Budget

Having a wedding budget is very essential in planning a wedding. You have to at least have an estimate of how much money you’ll need to spend and how much you actually have to spend. Knowing this is important to the process as it shows what financial decisions can be made for the day to be a beautiful success. Overspending and lack of money can lead to frustrations on you and the couple. Be sure to work out a budget or at least know where and how the money will be available before you start planning the wedding. (Can I Afford My Wedding)

4. Use a Checklist

A wedding day checklist usually has a list of things to do or items you may need to execute to have a successful wedding day. Be sure to check off each item as they are completed, this will minimize confusion. I suggest using a month by month checklist for 3 to 12+ months and a weekly checklist from 3 months to the wedding day. A checklist will also help you in making adjustments to your budget as you make decisions on where and how the money will be spent.

5. Source Vendors

You would want to start sourcing vendors such as venues, photographers, videographers, decorators, bakers, etc. Many wedding vendors are booked especially around busy periods. (Timing Your Wedding Day) To ensure that the vendors are available to you, start calling them as early as possible. Keep the information on the ones that you choose to use in a safe place (your notebook/planner) and be sure to give them your information so they can do a followup with you.

6. Ask for Help

If you are like me, you believe things aren’t done properly if you don’t do them yourself. However, I’ve come to realize that if we don’t ask for help and trust the people we have chosen, then we can end up with feels or frustration, overwhelm and burnout. Chose reliable persons, send reminders as a way to followup but never take back the task unless it’s absolutely unavoidable.

7. Hire a Wedding Planner

Believe it or not, even if you are planning your wedding by yourself or trying to save money; a wedding planner is very helpful to the process. They help to reduce your stress level to about 5%  as they do all the heavy lifting. Wedding planners also help couples to save money as they usually get discounts from vendors due to their relationship with them. Their fee is a percentage of the wedding budget, so couples never need to spend any extra money to get their help.

Thank you for reading and I hope you found the information helpful to Planning A Stress-free Wedding Day.